Mind Misalignment

The best way to start your own business is to make your mind your ally.

Have you been thinking about starting your own business for quite a while but you haven't done a damn thing to get started? Maybe you’re saying to yourself, “I'm going to start a business … someday.” Or maybe you’re saying, “I don't know how to get started.”

If these are the kinds of thoughts that are going through your head, chances are, your mind is holding you back.

I’m willing to bet that when you come home from work at night, you binge watch your favorite TV show on Netflix or scroll through Instagram instead of doing something to move you forward toward starting your business.

I'm also willing to bet that at the end of the night when you lay your head on your pillow, you don’t like yourself very much because you just wasted another evening.

If you're whiling away your nights watching Netflix, scrolling through social media, or finding other ways to distract yourself, chances are, you have a mindset misalignment.

What do I mean by mindset misalignment?

First, what do I mean by mindset? I like the way Carol S. Dweck Ph.D., author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, defines mindset. It's the view you adopt for yourself [that] profoundly affects the way you lead your life. Your mindset determines whether or not you become who you want to be and accomplish your goals.

When you are holding yourself back from becoming who you want to be, you have a mindset misalignment. There is a huge gap between where you want to be and where you are today and you don't know how to bridge that gap.

I had a mindset misalignment when I tried to start a coaching business in 2019, 2020, and 2021. My mindset was that I had failed as a businesswoman because I closed the consulting business that I had run for over 30 years at the end of 2018. And that view was a self- fulfilling prophecy. Because I was convinced that I sucked as a businesswoman, I failed every time I tried to launch my new business. But the desire to be a coach had been ignited in me and it kept getting louder. I knew I had to keep trying.

The desire to own your own business has been ignited in you, too. Being your own boss is your destiny. If it wasn't your destiny, you wouldn't have the burning desire.

Here’s the thing about a heart’s desire: the more you try to ignore that voice in your head that says you were made for more, the louder and more persistent that voice is going to get.

A year ago, I learned how to make my mind work for me instead of against me. I aligned my mindset with my desires so that I could make my dream come true.

Let me ask you this: How long are you going to keep on ignoring the voice inside you that ignited the desire to be your own boss? How much longer are you going to let your mind hold you back?